Do I need it?
I’ve been working on decluttering my home for years, but it’s gotten serious lately and I’m participating in 40 Bags in 40 Days. It’s not so much that I have to get rid of 40 bags, as much as it is going through everything that I own and deciding:
- Do I need it?
- Do I want it?
- Does it fit?
- Do I use it?
- Does it mean anything to me?
How did this start?
Over Christmas I finally tackled my two drawer (and many piles on top of) filing cabinet full of statements, paycheck stubs, mortgage refinances (some for a house we no longer own), etc. While I did this, my daughter was kind enough to organize our gift bag collection, which was a complete mess.
And then the kitchen faucet happened. Do you remember the kitchen faucet? Well, during a moment where my husband was at the hardware store for another tool that just might help, I found myself looking through everything that used to occupy the space under my kitchen sink — because it was spread all over my countertops. I was so angry with how the faucet was going that I picked through the crap until whatever was actually needed under the sink could fit into two shoebox-sized plastic bins and the rest was tossed into the garbage (or recycle bin). I felt so much better after that.
For years now, I haven’t wanted to participate in most gift exchanges because there is honesty nothing that I need. When people give me things that I don’t need, I become stressed about what to do with it. I don’t want to be a hoarder. I don’t want to be the person that holds on to things “just because”. My poor husband has heard my White Elephant Gift rant about a zillion times now. And, as much as I think a handmade card is adorable, I often don’t know what to do with it. Is it okay to toss it? Because I don’t need it. Or am I supposed to keep it? Because unless it’s something that means a lot to me, I really don’t want it.
Speaking of my husband, he’ll never let me forget how I wouldn’t throw away the TV Guide that listed the synopsis of every episode of Sex in the City. I never used it, but I thought I would.
In my defense: THIS WAS BEFORE THE INTERNET WAS ACTUALLY USEFUL.
Getting rid of stuff, it feels so good!
Anyhow, I’m going through my entire house and it feels so good to actually get rid of things! The more stuff that I let go of, the better I feel. And I don’t want you to think I’m living in a house that has piles and piles of stuff all over the place, because I’m not. I’ve found that what actually feels like clutter and mess to me, might be far from the tipping point of others who are also participating in 40 Bags in 40 Days. However, there’s no judgement, only an observation on my part.
Side note: I’m so proud of my daughter, she went through her closet and filled about five grocery bags of clothes that don’t fit her anymore.
I came across this today, Project 333, and it really has my attention. Do I dare try this? I feel like I wear the same pieces of clothes all the time, it might be worth it.
So that’s what I’ve been up to. Cleansing my home of all the stuff I don’t want/need/use.
My biggest question right now is what do I do with my wedding dress. I bought it from a second hand bridal shop, I was totally NOT your average bride. Once I found out that I had to sit in a dressing room while shopping for a wedding dress and let people bring dresses to me …. I was like: WTF kind of messed up way is this to select a wedding dress???? YOU dictate what I’m going to get married in? Uh, NOT.
My dress has been hanging on the very same hanger since October 3, 1996. Seriously. ON THE HANGER. IN MY CLOSET. SINCE MY WEDDING. I don’t even know what to do with it. Sell it? Donate it? My daughter is almost 13 years old, she doesn’t need a baptism gown, or a first communion dress. Right now she has her eye on this style wedding dress:
Photo credit: Vulture.com
Note to you: This looks nothing like my wedding dress. But she’s definitely moving in the direction of owning her own flair.
I’ll keep you posted on my progress!